For most people, ending a marriage is painful. Surviving it and moving on in a productive and meaningful way requires acceptance and forgiveness, especially when it comes to dealing with the legal processes involved - property division, child custody, spousal support and child support. Whether someone is in Colorado or anywhere across the nation, a divorce requires making tough decisions.
What are the most common mistakes couples make? The first and foremost problem is not thinking about what happens after divorce. This is common when couples let their emotions take over. If couples can keep their emotions in check, they are more likely to reach agreements - to learn the value of compromise - which can spare them additional stress and expense.
Another mistake is failing to provide accurate financial information about communal and personal assets. Honesty and accuracy are critical in property division. Both parties can only get a fair and reasonable share of marital properties and assets if both of them disclose everything they own. Failing to consider the best interests of children is another critical mistake. When parents focus on themselves, they neglect their children's need to feel that the future will be okay even if the present seems uncertain.
What else can make a divorce more difficult? When spouses fail to let go of the past, they have a harder time looking forward and imagining what the future holds. Developing a vision about the future can help a spouse let go and move on. Not thinking about taxes can also create problems. Most decisions made during divorce have tax consequences, so consider taxes on all decisions regarding money, investments and property.
Each of these decisions is easier if couples think about life after divorce and avoid letting their emotions take over.
Source: Huffington Post, "7 Common Mistakes to Avoid in Divorce or Separation," Cheryl and Joe Dillon, Oct. 28, 2014