Any long-term relationship may encounter rough patches and potholes over time, including years-long marriages. While these difficult times may lead to divorce, it is not inevitable.
Just because you feel as if your marriage teeters on the edge of collapse, does not mean there is no way to salvage it. By using the proper tools, you may be able to renew your bond with your spouse.
On occasion, couples lose compassion for each other, taking their partners for granted or growing impatient with them. They stop listening closely and taking into account their spouses’ emotions and opinions, creating and exacerbating existing issues. Stop for a moment and put yourself in your wife or husband’s shoes. Try to understand arguments from his or her point of view. Acknowledge that his or her concerns are legitimate directly to him or her and express empathy.
It may be tempting to push for a win in every fight. However, one side has to give in for there to be an end to war. Bending a little, even when you are in the right, may open the way to fixing your broken relationship. Doing so shows that you care more about your spouse than winning and closes the gap between you a little. Marriage requires giving and actively trying, even if that means a temporary loss on your part.
The presence of a trained, neutral third party may help decrease tension. It also provides an unbiased observer and guide who may provide valuable insights and tools. Marriage counseling is even available virtually.
If you are a Colorado resident whose marriage is on the cusp of divorce, you may still have the chance to mend the cracks in your union by displaying compassion and flexibility and seeking needed help.